The Sacred Fog of the In-Between
- Lizz & Esther / Deconstructing Mamas
- Oct 13
- 2 min read
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If you’ve ever left a toxic version of faith, you know this space.
The one between what’s been lost and what hasn’t yet been found.
Where the rules are gone but the shame still lingers.
Where “trust God” used to mean “don’t question,” and you’re finally learning to question everything.
It’s foggy here. Disorienting. Sometimes even terrifying.
But it can also be holy.
In this week’s episode of Deconstructing Mamas, coming out on Tuesday, October 14, Lizz and Esther talk about the in-between—that blurry stretch between certainty and freedom. We talk about control and compassion, about nervous systems that don’t need theology as much as safety, and about finding community outside the old walls of church.
We don’t have tidy answers (we’ve tried those before). But we do have a few anchors for the fog.
Anchors for the In-Between
When the old ways of praying, believing, or belonging don’t work anymore—start here:
Tree time. Sit under one. Lean against it. Let your breath match its calm.
Look up. Sky therapy. A reminder you’re part of something vast and kind.
Cozy is sacred. Blankets, warm mugs, soft clothes—small acts of self-compassion that retrain your body to feel safe again.
Medicine isn’t weakness. Sometimes your nervous system needs help to unclench. That’s healing, not failure.
Rest ≠ avoidance. Rest is recovery. Avoidance is fear. The difference is compassion.
A Few Things We Said (and Meant)
“God isn’t controlling the universe like a puppet show. Love is still here, and it looks like presence.” “Your body isn’t broken—it’s responding wisely to what’s been too much.” “Use your low beams in the fog. Slow is holy.”
If You’re Here Right Now
If you’re not sure what you believe, or where you belong, or if any of this still counts as faith—welcome.
You’re not alone.
The fog is temporary.
And even here, you’re being held by something softer, wider, and more loving than fear ever was.
One last thing. We want to remind you that we are so glad you are here. We wouldn't be the same without you. You will always find GRACE for where you've been and who you are now, and SPACE for who you are becoming and will be.
Carry on, our new-found friends. Welcome to the twisty-windy, full -of-adventure faith path that's laid out before us all.
Love,
Lizz & Esther
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