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VBS, Both/And + BIG NEWS

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VBS at a local church.

My oldest went last year with some friends and I checked out. My husband dropped her off and picked her up.

This year my littlest wanted to go too and in true mom fashion I signed up to volunteer to ease some of his anxiety (and mine).

I wasn’t sure what to expect.

I wasn’t sure how my body would respond to church and worship after having been out of it for so long.

I wasn’t sure if I’d hear the message and march my kids straight out of there.

I'm not quite sure how to describe the experience.

I felt pulled in so many different emotional directions. I truly enjoyed interacting with the kids and watching their excitement at the different events. And describing God as everywhere, I’m all on board. My body stayed in hyper-vigilance a bit, unsure of whether it could relax into safety or not. Unexpectedly, there were some things that brought back some good memories too. I loved VBS as a kid. The little paper people being used to tell a story, the Newsboys blasting their (at times theologically concerning but catchy) tunes through the courtyard, the themed snacks, hand motions for every word of every song, staying up late.

It was a beautiful reminder to me of the Both/And of my faith journey. There is deep grief that church no longer feels like home to me.

There is anger around certain religious doctrine, religious people, and religious culture that have been so harmful to myself and others. AND there are also some wonderful things that have a place in my memory and my soul and it’s okay to honor that too.

I know so many of you hold this dichotomy around your religious upbringings. And it can feel like a self betrayal to remember any of it with a smile. But when Audio Adrenaline crosses our minds we can question the integrity of their description of Heaven and also tap along to the beat as we remember belting out the chorus with our middle school friends over pizza. Both/And. (Our Own Lizz Enns Petters)


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Carry on, our new-found friends. Welcome to the twisty-windy, full -of-adventure faith path that's laid out before us all. Love,

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